Archive for June, 2015
The Supreme Court just struck down the bans on same-sex marriage and during this historic weekend there have been a lot of people sounding off. Why not? Whether your agree or disagree (or are indifferent, which is a large group, too) – it’s a BFD! This kind of major milestone inspires many people to write something or say something.
Most of what I see are “thumbs up” posts with positive messages for an outcome that most everyone saw as eventual inevitability (though perhaps not this soon). But not everyone, right?
The views from the heterosexual camp break down into 4 basic categories.
- I’m totally and completely on board with this and I have no reservations whatsoever. I can’t believe it hasn’t already been done. Marriage is a civil doctrine and two consenting adults from marrying is a civil violation. (I’m probably a Liberal).
- I don’t really worry about it much but I’m in favor of legalizing gay marriage. I think it’s an unnecessary rule and a civil rights violation. It makes no difference to me if a couple lives together with or without a marriage certificate. If I put myself in someone else’s shoes, if I or my child were gay, I would be for gay marriage. I don’t care if straight people do or don’t marry. This neither picks my pocket nor breaks my bones (Thomas Jefferson). A couple is going to make a commitment to each other anyway and it doesn’t really affect me. (I’m probably a Progressive).
- The whole gay thing is wrong and immoral and I don’t like it. I don’t want my kids around a lot of gay couples. But whether or not they are a gay couple without a marriage certificate or a gay couple with a marriage certificate makes no difference to me so I have no problem legalizing gay marriage. (I’m probably an Independent).
- Gay people are ruining everything for me and I am totally and completely against it. Jesus is against gay marriage and anyone who supports it will go to hell. 9 out of 10 Christian divorcees agree that homosexuality is destroying the sanctity of marriage. I will fight against it and I will refuse to acknowledge it. (I’m probably a Conservative).
If you’re in that last camp…I caution you to be careful what you write. Conservatives tend to be on the wrong side of history more often than not. You’re not going to change anything and there’s no upside to continuing to rant against gay people.
My advice, in this day of posting-permanence is to be mindful of what you say…especially if you’re on the wrong side of this one. On historic topics that people (like your grand-kids) might see, you might want to think before you write. Back when conservatives were ranting against de-segregation, every idiot didn’t have a social media account and a blog. If your grandparents were on the wrong side of de-segregation, you don’t see their remarks…typically just people like Strom Thurmond.
There are always conservatives who don’t want change. But before you post how upset you are, and how sure you are that Jesus should have mentioned this in his teachings, and how sure you are that this is the worst thing that’s ever happened…before you write, consider these conservatives cheering this guy on a few decades ago: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgH7WgtIU2k
From a corporate level, this is a list of companies tweeting about it this weekend: http://www.buzzfeed.com/jarrylee/love-wins#.gu9MKdDaOJ
Edit: For detractors who are undoubtedly going to cite the Old Testament…We all know that you aren’t following everything written in the Old Testament so just skip the hypocrisy.
You shall not wear a garment of different sorts, such as wool and linen mixed together. Deuteronomy 22:11
You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. Leviticus 25:44-46 NLT
Nevertheless these you shall not eat . . . the swine, though it divides the hoof, having cloven hooves, yet does not chew the cud, is unclean to you. Leviticus 11:4, 7
If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them…they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. Deuteronomy 21:18-21
Look in the mirror and acknowledge that you are picking and choosing the parts of the bible that you feel are “right” and you can follow only the ones you like.
If you get to decide which parts of the bible are wrong and that you can ignore, then logic dictates that other people also get to choose which parts of the bible are wrong and can be ignored – rendering your argument completely pointless.